7/24/2013 2:34:00 PM
In any business where you find yourself in the public eye, you’re going to run into people who absolutely hate you. You might be the coolest, sweetest, nicest person ever to walk the Earth, but it won’t matter. It’s the old math my friend. X out of every 1000 people will simply dislike you, and will also have no problem letting you know about it either.
It is easy to hate and it is difficult to love. This is how the whole scheme of things works. All good things are difficult to achieve; and bad things are very easy to get. – Confucius
I’ve certainly run into people in the arts who have a very hard time dealing with haters, and it makes sense. Artistic people are usually very sensitive. It’s part of being an artist. They feel the persons hate deeply. This sensitivity can work against you in this example because they often try to dig into why some person must feel this way, hoping to find a way to change their minds. What am I doing wrong? Why do they feel this way about me? Forget it.
I am free of all prejudices. I hate every one equally. - W. C. Fields
It’s in our basic programming I think, well, at least for most of us; we just want people to like us. When you’re in the entertainment business, this can become especially true, and for good reason. However, it really isn’t as important as you might think. In fact, people expressing a dislike for you can be a good thing.
As I mentioned, it’s really just basic math. 1 out of every X number of people simply will not like you. So, if you start to notice more people leaving nasty comments on your Facebook page or website it means your exposure is growing. Growing your exposure is a damn good thing. Therefore, the more haters you hear from, the more exposure you’re gaining, which means your career is on track. Half full.
My dad loved to throw around sayings; it’s an Irish thing I guess. Early on when I started playing guitar he said to me “Patrick, if people aren’t talking shit about you, then your doing something wrong.” Yeah, that does make sense.
Always remember that others may hate you but those who hate you don't win unless you hate them. And then you destroy yourself. - Richard M. Nixon
Let the haters hate, take it as a good sign.. and when it comes to dealing with the haters, remember this quote from one of those crazy long haired Zen guys “let them come, let them be, let them go”.